Why Asian guys go for white girls

Chrisdesign_Burning_Heart.png Amusingly, one of the latest places I’ve been hanging out has been 8 Asians. Interestingly enough, most the topics are based on the thoughts and cultural clashes and how Asian Americans deal with societal differences. It’s definitely an interesting read, and a lot of topics that are brought up can definitely raise some awareness as to how many of us relate to the “culture within a culture”.
One of the latest posts had me in tears. Based on personal experience only, and perhaps where I grew up, but it was amusingly enough to have the entirely flipped situation for me. The post was titled “Why Asian Girls Go For White Guys“.
Funny. Since a lot of the answers that those girls said were … well, didn’t apply.
Some history. I grew up in the greater Seattle area. Asians? Definitely. But I didn’t have the luxury of dating. Nope, we were in a typical first generation household where you concentrated on school until you were in college. Just how it worked out. Did I want to date Asian girls? Sure for a time. But usually Asian-American girls where I was were cliquish and were very much into impressing people. Most were actually trying to disassociate their Asian side of things and only took on the good things (like hongbao for New Year’s and so on so forth). One of my friends happened to date a girl that had this shopping fetish and went out with her parents’ credit card all the time. Was that for me? Definitely not. Most of them were more interested in the jocks, football player types than myself, even though….. get this…
I’m tall, I have a deep voice, I joked around, and….. was pretty outgoing. So you have to wonder about some of the answers given in the 8 Asians post. To each their own when it comes to experiences I guess.
All in all, I found that Caucasian girls were a lot more down to earth and liked me for who I was, and not for whatever other reasons there were out there that made the Asian American girls impossibly difficult to date. Is this true for all Asian males that are dating white girls? Maybe, maybe not. But I can say that there are a lot more Asian girl interracial couples out there than where the male is Asian. And I would be curious to know if there is some inkling of truth in this.
Again, perhaps it was the pool that I had access to although it wasn’t like Asians are a rarity in the Seattle area. People just like different things I suppose. Funny how things turn out in the end. Happily in love with a white girl, whom understands my Asian culture way better than any of those Asian American girls I grew up with. Should there be a tables turning thing here? Maybe. Do I have Asian American girl friends? Sure. But dating material? Not so much. Any other Asian guys out there that went through the same situation?

  • A lot of what you say resounds similiarly to how I feel about the whole situation. I agree with what you say in that the issue is hugely dependent on many social and environmental factors.

  • A lot of what you say resounds similiarly to how I feel about the whole situation. I agree with what you say in that the issue is hugely dependent on many social and environmental factors.

  • Rob

    Yup.
    Since the white guys were also into Asian girls, Asian girls had this stuck up attitude and I didn’t feel like I should have to work twice as hard as the white guy.
    The white girls actually liked me for me whereas the Asian girls were too busy showing off their status in society in the form of clothes, cars, money, and white boyfriends to show others that they “made” it.

  • Rob

    Yup.
    Since the white guys were also into Asian girls, Asian girls had this stuck up attitude and I didn’t feel like I should have to work twice as hard as the white guy.
    The white girls actually liked me for me whereas the Asian girls were too busy showing off their status in society in the form of clothes, cars, money, and white boyfriends to show others that they “made” it.

  • Xeltar

    True

  • Xeltar

    True